Welcome to the Women’s Personal Finance Wednesday Roundup! We started this series back in 2018 on TreadLightlyRetireEarly.com to showcase the fabulous women in the online personal finance community who are talking about money online. Even now, there is a perception that women aren’t good with money, don’t care about money, or don’t understand it on a granular level beyond perhaps knowing how to coupon and score a good shopping deal.
These roundups are our way of doing a small part to change that perception. There is no shortage of women online doing their part to make it clear that they DO understand money, and these posts are meant to amplify that fact.
Why does it matter? Because representation matters. Because reading and hearing stories from those who (may or may not) look like us show us that yes, we too can figure out this money thing, that we too have important stories to tell. And that we too know quite a lot about money and are experts worth listening to.
Since Women’s Personal Finance has grown up to get its own website, it’s time to transition these roundups over here to the dedicated website. Same great content, new home!
If you don’t have the time or inclination to go searching down myriad posts, though, we will be continuing this series every week to showcase some of the best of the new content we read. If you ever read a post you think we absolutely need to consider for this roundup, please let us know! We are always open to reading new blogs and want to celebrate those newer voices as well as the more seasoned ones.
And with that, here is the best (in our opinion) content by women and nonbinary folks this past week. Let us know what you think in the comments! We love discussion.
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Women’s Personal Finance Weekly Roundup #105 (Actually, 244)
1. the average cost of living in the 15 safest states for trans people Queer & Trans Wealth
“Since moving to the US 19 years ago, I have lived in 5 different cities. I know firsthand about the financial and emotional consequences of housing instability, and I can tell you that anti-trans legislation is currently causing — and will continue to cause — financial trauma in our communities.
To help folx make educated financial decisions about where to move, I put together the average cost of living in the 15 safest states for transgender adults using the Anti-Trans Legislative Risk Map.”
2. Reflections on One Year of Financial Independence Crying In Finance
“Honestly, I’ve felt pretty unsettled for most of the year. Do you remember that Dunkin’ Donuts commercial with the song “Doing Things Is What I Like To Do”? I think it’s my theme song. I can’t stop doing. I also really like routines and the lack of them with the “endless free time” has been more of a struggle than I expected. That being said, as of this fall I’m finding routine and regular things to fill in the time so the “what do I do today” anxiety has calmed.”
3. How do I help my friend in an abusive marriage? Liberating Motherhood
“My two best friends are/have been in awful marriages. Coercive abusive, controlling, serious lack of help around the house (obvs these things go hand in hand), all the awfulness that you post about. How do I help them? I have listened and been there for them for 5 years or so, since they have become aware and are trying to leave.
They both have children.
One friend has separated but jumped from one bad man straight to another.
The other is preparing to say she wants to divorce but isn’t strong enough without support because she is afraid of him (I live 100s of miles away from her). I am at a point where I am exhausted helping them, and I feel like a bad friend. I have run out of ideas and am completely stuck, because it feels endless, and I feel I need a reset on my empathy, hence why I write to you.“
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As always, if you’re looking for a categorized list of self-identified women and nonbinary folks writing and speaking about personal finance, here is the comprehensive guide to the Women of the Financial Independence Community.